Everybody has Michael Jordan-level talent…at something.
You just haven’t found it yet, or you have and you don’t #Believe in yourself enough to go all in on it. You’re a genius. You’re amazing. You were not meant to live a photocopy of someone else’s life. You were not created to wake up and do work that is below your capabilities. You have Michael Jordan level talent at something and need to uncover exactly what your purpose is and how you can serve.
I’ll start this process by asking you what your most important core value is.
What do you stand for? What is your single most important core value? Most people have no idea. They’ve never been asked that question before. So I’ll ask probing questions like, “Who was your favorite teacher growing up? What is your favorite movie of all time? What is your favorite song?”
Everything great that you love is connected.
For example, you don’t love Mrs. Jones because she taught you eighth-grade math. You love her because she was the only teacher who didn’t make you feel like an outsider. She made you feel like you belonged. Now it makes sense why your favorite movie is Hercules, because he was half god, half human and never felt like he belonged in either the land of the gods or the humans. Now it makes sense why “Go the Distance” by Michael Bolton is your favorite song, because that line, “When I go the distance, I'll be right where I belong,” always hits you emotionally. Your most important core value is belonging.
This is powerful.
When I do this live with people, at this point they’re usually stunned. How did this stranger break them down so quickly in five minutes, when they’ve lived their entire life without knowing what they stand for? How does so much of their life now suddenly make sense, when they felt lost only moments before?
Finding your most important core value is what I call your Who.
It’s finding who you are. And knowing that you stand for belonging allows you to set a course for your life. You now know that being in a business, a job, a relationship where you don’t feel like you belong is going to be toxic for you, no matter how much money you make or how much you look like you’re winning by any other metric. It’s a life-changing experience for people.
But we’re just getting started. Now we need to find your Why.